I took a class, once, a graduate level Gender Communication class. I learned that men and women communicate differently. Women do the explaining, the communicating, the keeping-everyone-together work. They keep things civil with humor and caretaking. Men set the rules, follow the rules, evaluate the rules, and tweak the rules. It seems that men choose when to lead and when to be led.
Nowhere is this gendered behavior more obvious than in an RvR BG with a male and a female BG leader.
Since women are stellar mutli-taskers, it seems to fall to them to do the listening in Ventrilo and the typing in BG Chat (Battle Group Chat, for you DAoC newbs). Women keep those without Ventrilo informed of the decisions made in Ventrilo (a program that lets users talk verbally online).
Since men seem to prefer structure (aka rules), they don't always appreciate it when those they lead have a creative moment that accidentally throws an axe into the proverbial siege engine. And, they have no problem scolding the miscreant who "broke" the rules and failed to do as he or she was told.
All in all, there is a life lesson to be learned here. Maybe the lesson is: Groups function best when everyone knows where to be and what to do. Maybe the lesson is: At their core, people are bound by gendered rules of conduct. Or, maybe the rule is simply: Failure makes people cranky.
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What am I supposed to do with this? I don't know what you're talking about half the time, but I think that the moral of the story is "women are smarter than men," so me likey.
In other news, Licia still hasn't blogged yet, but I'm still hopeful. She's sitting next to me right now, so maybe if I give her five bucks.
Pat, Pat, Pat. :-/
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